This one is for the people-pleasers, and the women who struggle to stand up for themselves.

DO NO HARM, BUT TAKE NO SHIT.

I like to think of myself as a reformed people pleaser.

But for the first 3 decades of my life? Not so much.

I can’t even count the number of situations where someone has said something, done something or acted in a way that didn’t sit well with me.

That time a family member was leaving nasty comments on the Be. Bangles page? I let that go on for a few months before I finally banned her from the page. And in staying true to my people-pleasing origins, I then APOLOGISED to her for banning her, even though she was the one trolling me. (Goddamn gurl).

The time a housemate kept telling me how I was ‘allowed’ to live in the house we were both paying for? I towed the line and did everything she told me to do until I finally spoke up 3 months later. (It didn’t go well).

The times when an employee would give me the silent treatment every time I gave her feedback or asked for changes to her some of her work? I never said anything. I freaked out that she was ignoring me and just stopped giving feedback.

For most of my life I’ve carried the belief that it’s more important to be “nice” and “liked” than to speak up about my own opinions and needs.

I put my own needs at the very bottom of the list, and operated as a dirt eater. It’s like I had a label on my head that said - “Oh, you want to kick dirt in my face? Go ahead! Do it! And then, with a mouth full of mud, I’ll apologise to you and make excuses for your behaviour.”

Oh man, and the excuses I made were endless.

_“Maybe they didn’t mean it.”_

_“Maybe I’m reading it wrong.”_

_“Maybe they’re just having a really bad day.”_

_“I don’t know what’s going on in their life, this probably isn’t about me.”_

And I know I’m not the only one guilty of this. I wonder how many women reading this email are ‘putting up with’ situations for the fear of being disliked. Or not rocking the boat. Or wanting to please people rather than speak up about what’s important to them.

Well, consider this bangle a wake-up call.

DO NO HARM, BUT TAKE NO SHIT.

You deserve to be treated with respect.

You have the right to say what is and isn’t okay with you.

You don’t have to take shit from ANYONE. EVER.

Like seriously, EVER.

Do No Harm, But Take No Shit.

So, to my fellow people pleasers and dirt eaters. Now’s the time. Speak up, stand up and take no shit.

DO NO HARM, BUT TAKE NO SHIT.

_Quote from - Moïra Fowley-Doyle, Spellbook of the Lost and Found_

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